You can not succeed on your own; this is a world of interdependence. You must learn to net-work and collaborate with others
in synergistic relations. Good manners and behavior are necessary for positive and meaningful interaction with people. You
need to learn to respect and protect the rights of others so that your rights may also be respected. Every action, behavior,
or habit has consequences. Always consider and think about the long-term consequences before you speak or act.
A vital distinction must be made between being childish and child-like. Childishness is dependency and inability to achieve
emotional maturity, self-confidence, and self-esteem. Child-like on the other hand is a very positive attribute. It emphasizes
being explorative, taking initiative, being bold to experiment, being optimistic, and not feeling defeated or cornered. These
behaviors are found in children and tend to annoy parents. They are very useful for the adult. The mistake is for children
to grown up too soon or for adults to regress to childhood in the way they use these attributes.
Develop a positive attitude. Be optimistic and develop positive behavior. The world is essentially good and the hereafter
much better. There is more good than evil. You can always succeed in the long-run if you do not become pessimistic and give
up. Look at problems of life in perspective. What may look big may not be so in the long run. You may hate today what turns
out to be good tomorrow. See and emphasize the positive in any problem.
2.2 You cannot improve yourself without effort. You
must make the intention to be a better person and take action to achieve your goals. Life is not chance. Everything that occurs
is pre-determined. You however do not know the pre-determination. You have to work hard, search for it, use your will power
and choice that Allah gave you. Accept personal responsibility for mistakes. Do not blame others for your problems. Learn
from your past experiences, positive and negative. Good manners or experiences should be reinforced while bad ones should
Learn to distinguish between what you want and what you need. Wants are emotional; needs are rational. Always choose needs
over wants. Be realistic. Do not live in a dream world. Dreaming is good in motivating you and developing your creative thinking.
Dreaming has limits if it obscures correct perception of reality. Never entertain illusions about your strengths and weaknesses.
Never deceive yourself. Never allow others to deceive you by praising you and giving you attributes you lack. Such persons
are your true enemies. Confront your weaknesses and do not deny them. Do something about correcting them